Divorce Mediation Blog

Look Who is Coming to the Mediation Table

{4:54 minutes to read} What happens when attorneys join clients in matrimonial mediation? It’s anyone’s guess! Generally, in my practice, divorce mediations are intimate, including only the parties and the mediator. This often adds to the sense of confidentiality and privacy. It works well for many clients who want to speak candidly about difficult issues … Continue reading Look Who is Coming to the Mediation Table

Anger & Vitriol – and What to Do About Them in Divorce

{6:12 minutes to read) Yes, you’re mad as hell and you’re not gonna take it anymore! That’s what divorce is for. While it’s a normal reaction to refuse, resist and rebel against a divorce that wasn’t wanted, or make a final stand against all the inequities suffered in the marriage gone off track, this—this spot … Continue reading Anger & Vitriol – and What to Do About Them in Divorce

Is There Room For Other Professionals in Mediation?

{3:18 minutes to read} People going through divorce often discover they need more help than they initially imagined. Not only are they divorcing, but they now need: Their own health insurance; Life insurance to secure child support/alimony obligations; Therapy to support the period of adjustment; A real estate agent to list the home or find … Continue reading Is There Room For Other Professionals in Mediation?

How Do We Understand Family During Divorce?

{4:18 minutes to read} How do we understand family in a way that’s useful during divorce? First, it’s helpful to deconstruct and decide exactly and specifically what family means to you. When you spend some time “asking into” your initial wants, you can unearth your root values. For example, is it important to you to … Continue reading How Do We Understand Family During Divorce?

Are We There Yet? (Or How Long Does Divorce Mediation Take?)

{4:00 minutes to read} How long is this going to take? When can we get this over with? When people are in distress, they want to know two things: That it will end. When it will end. A clear framework and expedited process can contain some of the amorphous misery of divorce. Mediation truncates the … Continue reading Are We There Yet? (Or How Long Does Divorce Mediation Take?)

Curiosity: The Little Word that Could

  {5:80 minutes to read} Curiosity: A simple word that can unlock possibilities, shift paradigms, and free us from the bondage of our own “rightness.” In Focus Oriented Therapy, we are called to settle into the here and now, sense into our body, check in with ourselves with a “childlike curiosity.” This invitation, this language, … Continue reading Curiosity: The Little Word that Could